Saturday, December 17, 2016

A Journey Through La La Land

My favorite film of 2014 was Damien Chazelle's Whiplash.  At the time I was experiencing harassment and manipulation from a bully disguised as a mentor, so it felt very relevant to me. Aside from my own personal experiences, it was such an immersive experience of the senses that it is not exaggerating too much when I say that I felt like I'd just had an intense physical and mental workout coming out of it.  

Chazelle,who is currently, one of the most exciting directors making "somewhat" mainstream films right now.  His long awaited and current Best Picture front runner  La La Land takes audiences on a different kind of journey.  However the previews for this film are showing it, it isn't a light easy journey.   La La Land wasn't what I expected.  There were times I found the first half frustrating.  I wasn't alone.  I counted four people on my side of the theater who walked out of the film in the middle.  I stuck through it until the end, and I definitely felt rewarded, but this film will definitely not play well for just anyone. 

La La Land is a musical, and in a way it is an homage to Astaire and Roger type musicals of Old Hollywood.   As a major musical lover, I have to admit that I'm not a fan of many of the old time Hollywood musical that  La La Land clearly adores.  It also has a basic premise that I just couldn't totally buy, and that despite the traffic, the grit, and the disappointment, that Los Angeles is a magical place of dreams.  This is a hard pill for me to swallow because in all of my many travels LA is one of my least favorite places I've ever been to.  

But then something happens.  I can't pin it down exactly.  I know it was after all of the walk outs though. La La Land will stay in my thoughts for awhile for because of how confounding and beautiful it is.  For this is a simple girl meets boy movie that seeks to be something more.  The second half is excellent--at times genius, but to say more than that would be unfair to anyone who reads this and may potentially view the film.  

Emma Stone, who may or may not win a Best Actress Oscar for this, pulls off the wide eyed naivety well. Her ride through La La Land ends up being the most defined, and she often gives a quite fearless performance.  Ryan Gosling, my favorite male actor, catapults a perhaps underwritten character with his charm and great talent.  It's funny that this is finally the film that will finally probably  get him a second Oscar nomination because he has played many roles that have required much more of him (aside from the dancing).  It's a strong performance, but he makes it look easy (even if it maybe isn't). 

The third star of the movie is Damien Chazelle's direction which again creates an immersive experience with the music and the colorful visuals.  He was clearly influenced by The classic French Film Umbrellas  of Cherbourg, and perhaps this film is America's Umbrella. The songs range from fun (the opening traffic scene) to amazing (Emma Stone's monologue song), but ultimately I would say drop your conceptions of what a musical is at the door of you may be disappointed.  La La Land is not what you expect.  Ultimately it is probably more.  What I do know that  it is an ambitious but flawed piece is art that makes me even more excited for what it's director's next move is.  

La La Land 8 out of 10

Monday, December 5, 2016

The Winners. Better late than never. The Best of TV. The 2015-2016 season

I watch a lot of TV! Here are my favorites from June 1, 2015 to May 31, 2016
The winners are noted below.

Best Reality Television show
Making A Murderer
Project Greenlight
Rupaul's Drag Race Logo
Shark Tank
Survivor- Winner
Top Chef

Best Guest Actor in a Series
Mahershala Ali House of Cards
Richard Armitage Hannibal
Reg E. Cathey House of Cards
Jeffrey Dean Morgan The Walking Dead-Winner
Paul Sparks House of Cards
Jon Tenney Scandal


Best Guest Actress in a Series
Gillian Anderson Hannibal
Ellen  Burstyn House of Cards
Kate Burton Scandal
Molly Parker House of Cards
Cicely Tyson How to get away with murder
Mare Winningham The Affair-Winner


Best Supporting Actress Mini Series or TV Movie
Kathy Bates American Horror Story: Hotel
Regina King American CrimeMelissa Leo All the Way
Charlotte Rampling London Spy
Jean Smart Fargo- Winner
Mare Winningham American Horror Story Hotel

Best Supporting Actress in a Drama Series
Laura Carmichael Downton Abbey
Melissa Leo Wayward Pines Season 1
Maggie Smith Downton Abbey
Maura Tierney The Affair-Winner
Bellamy Young Scandal
Constance Zimmer Unreal

Best Supporting Actress in a Comedy Series
Anna Chlumsky Veep
Kether Donohue You're the Worst
Jenifer Lewis blackish Winner
Judith Light Transparent
Niecy Nash Getting On

Allison Williams Girls

Best Supporting Actor in a Drama Series
Jim Carter Downton Abbey
Joshua Jackson The Affair
Lenny James The Walking Dead
Rob James-Collier Downton Abbey Winner
Michael Kelly House of Cards
Jussie Smollett Empire

Best supporting Actor in a Comedy Series
Titus Burgess Unbreakable Kimmie Schmidt
Jaime Camil Jane the Virgin Winner
TJ Miller Silicon Valley
Timothy Simons Veep
Zach Woods Silicon Valley
Steve Zissis Togetherness

Best Supporting Actor in a TV movie or Mini Series
Connor Jessup American Crime Winner
Ne-Yo The Wiz
Denis O'Hare American Horror Story Hotel
Jessie Plemons Fargo
Joey Pollari American Crime
Bokeem Woodbine Fargo

Best Guest Actress Comedy
Tina Fey Unbreakable Kimmie Schmidt
Beth Grant Mindy Project
Linda Lavin Mom
Niecy Nash Scream Queens Winner
Jenny Slate Girls
June Squibb Mom

Best Guest Actor Comedy
Christopher Abbott Girls
Mike Carlsen Unbreakable Kimmie Schmidt Winner
Peter Macnichol Veep
Anthony Mendez Jane the Virgin
Chris Messina Mindy Projec
Corey Stoll Girls


Best Lead Actor in a Comedy Series
Anthony Anderson blackish winner
Aziz Ansari Master of None
Noah Calvin The Real O'Neals
Chris Geere You're the Worst
Jeffrey Tambor Transparent
Josh Thomas Please Like Me

Best Lead Actor in a Mini series of Tv Movie
Bryan Cranston All the Way Winner
Idris Elba Luther
Timothy Hutton American Crime
Andy Samberg 7 Days of Hell
Ben Whishaw  London Spy
Patrick Wilson Fargo

Best Lead Actor in a Drama Series
Kyle Chandler Bloodline
Hugh Dancy Hannibal
Freddie Highmore Bates Motel Winner
Mads Mikklesen Hannibal
Kevin Spacey House of Cards
Dominic West The Affair

Best Lead Actress in a Mini Series or Tv Movie
Kirsten Dunst Fargo Winner
Felicity Huffman American Crime
Audra McDonald Lady Day at Emerson's Bar and Grill
Lili Taylor American Crime
Kerry Washington Confirmation
Shanice Williams The Wiz Live

Best Lead Actress in a Drama Series
 Shiri Appleby Unreal
Viola Davis How to Get Away with Murder
Michelle Dockery Downton Abbey
Taraji P. Henson Empire
Ruth Wilson The Affair
Robin Wright House of Cards Winner

Best Lead Actress in a Comedy Series
Rachel Bloom Crazy Ex girlfriend Winner
Tracy Ellis Ross blackish
Ellie Kemper Unbreakable Kimmie Schmidt
Julia Louis Dreyfus Veep
Gina Rodriguez Jane The Virgin
Constance Wu Fresh Off The Boat

Best Mini Series or Tv Movie
All The Way
American Crime Winner
Confirmation
Fargo
Lady Day at Emerson Bar and Grill
London Spy
The Wiz Live

Best Comedy Series
blackish
Crazy Ex Girlfiend
Getting On
Jane the Virgin
Please Like Me Winner
Transparent
Unbreakable Kimmie Schmidt

Best Drama Series
The Affair Winner
Downton Abbey
Empire
Hannibal
House of Cards
Scandal
Unreal












Friday, December 2, 2016

Film: Their stories matter- Loving and Moonlight

Two small independent films, Loving and Moonlight, are beginning to catch on with audiences as award season begins. Both of them are worth your time. Aside from telling stories of African American characters that are all too rarely told on film, they are also works of art in their own right.

Loving is based on the true story of Mildred and Richard Loving. (I am embarrassed that I only realized during the movie where the title came from. Prior to that, I thought it was a pretty uninspired title. Of course my mind is changed now.) Mildred and Richard are an interracial couple (one white and one black) who want to get married, but the state of Virginia (as well as many other states in the USA at that time) would not allow it. It is the kind of thing that maybe even a year ago it would have blown minds that it was even as issue, but now sadly anything in the USA is possible again.

Loving, the film, does something interesting and risky. It stays quiet. It would have been easy to make a bombastic deal about the Supreme Court decision that ultimately allowed them to be married, but the film keeps it understated and unassuming just like its two main characters. Loving is ultimately not about the Supreme Court case that gave these two individuals the right to marry, it is this couple's love story, and it is beautifully told!

Joel Edgerton and Ruth Negga are amazing as the Loving couple. Both deserve major award attention including Oscar nominations, but neither has a scene that screams "Give me an Oscar, or I will throw more fine china on the floor!" This is very much to director Jeff Nichol's credit for letting these quiet characters stay quiet and not acted out with a capital A. There is a nice scene with Michael Shannon as a Life photographer. The only performance that did not really fit in for me was Nick Kroll's as their ACLU attorney. He did his best, but it is hard to leave his huge comic persona at the movie theatre door.

Loving is worth your time for a beautiful love story and the reluctant hope that such a story could never happen again in the United States.

Moonlight is another story that is rarely told on film. It is about an African American male dealing with his sexuality, and his place in a world that is always pushing against him. It may be extreme for me to say that Moonlight is a revolutionary film, but I can think of no other word, and it is how I feel. The closest thing I can find to compare to what has been made here is Brokeback Mountain. Certainly, not since that film has the issue of same sex attraction in a world that does not accept it been dealt with such sensitivity and complexity.  What I am about to say is going to make some people clutch their pearls, but I think Moonlight is a better film than that the excellent Brokeback Mountain.

Moonlight is so great because the way that it tells its character's stories. Three of the main characters are a drug dealer, a crack addict, and a son of a crack addict, but these characters which lean toward being stereotypical African American film characters feel more human than almost any character of any color I have seen on screen for a few years.

The acting is astonishing, but in a way that is hard to single any actor out. This film is very much an ensemble piece with great scenes for all the actors. However, if I have to single out actors I would definitely make the case for Mahershala Ali, Naomie Harris, and Trevante Rhodes as the adult version of the main character all deserve attention. Singer turned actor  Janelle Monae is also a welcome addition to the cast.

The film is more than its performances though .  It is crafted like it was made by a veteran filmmaker.  Director Barry Jenkins, who is a director to watch, has an eye for great detail.  His camera operators makes some interesting choices with cinematography that you would not expect in such a story driven movie.  The score is also amazing, and it is wisely used sparingly to make the moments it is used even more effective.

While I have many movies to see this year, it is hard to imagine a film that will be better than Moonlight. It is also difficult  to imagine that many movies will be better than Loving.  These are two movies about characters that don't have their story told often enough on screen. And their stories matter.


Loving scores an 8 out of 10
And Moonlight scores a rare 10 out of 10.

Sunday, August 28, 2016

My favorites in Television for the 2015-2016 TV season

I watch a lot of TV! Here are my favorites from June 1, 2015 to May 31, 2016

Best Reality Television show
Making A Murderer
Project Greenlight
Rupaul's Drag Race Logo
Shark Tank
Survivor
Top Chef

Best Guest Actor in a Series
Mahershala Ali House of Cards
Richard Armitage Hannibal
Reg E. Cathey House of Cards
Jeffrey Dean Morgan The Walking Dead
Paul Sparks House of Cards
Jon Tenney Scandal



Best Guest Actress in a Series
Gillian Anderson Hannibal
Ellen  Burstyn House of Cards
Kate Burton Scandal
Molly Parker House of Cards
Cicely Tyson How to get away with murder
Mare Winningham The Affair


Best Supporting Actress Mini Series or TV Movie
Kathy Bates American Horror Story: Hotel
Regina King American Crime
Melissa Leo All the Way
Charlotte Rampling London Spy
Jean Smart Fargo
Mare Winningham American Horror Story Hotel

Best Supporting Actress in a Drama Series
Laura Carmichael Downton Abbey
Melissa Leo Wayward Pines Season 1
Maggie Smith Downton Abbey
Maura Tierney The Affair
Bellamy Young Scandal
Constance Zimmer Unreal

Best Supporting Actress in a Comedy Series
Anna Chlumsky Veep
Kether Donohue You're the Worst
Jenifer Lewis blackish
Judith Light Transparent
Niecy Nash Getting On
Allison Williams Girls

Best Supporting Actor in a Drama Series
Jim Carter Downton Abbey
Joshua Jackson The Affair
Lenny James The Walking Dead
Rob James-Collier Downton Abbey
Michael Kelly House of Cards
Jussie Smollett Empire

Best supporting Actor in a Comedy Series
Titus Burgess Unreakable Kimmie Schmidt
Jaime Camil Jane the Virgin
TJ Miller Silicon Valley
Timothy Simons Veep
Zach Woods Silicon Valley
Steve Zissis Togetherness

Best Supporting Actor in a TV movie or Mini Series
Connor Jessup American Crime
Ne-Yo The Wiz
Denis O'Hare American Horror Story Hotel
Jessie Plemons Fargo
Joey Pollari American Crime
Bokeem Woodbine Fargo


Best Guest Actress Comedy
Tina Fey Unbreakable Kimmie Schmidt
Beth Grant Mindy Project
Linda Lavin Mom
Niecy Nash Scream Queens
Jenny Slate Girls
June Squibb Mom

Best Guest Actor Comedy
Christopher Abbott Girls
Mike Carlsen Unbreakable Kimmie Schmidt
Peter Macnichol Veep
Anthony Mendez Jane the Virgin
Chris Messina Mindy Project
Corey Stoll Girls


Best Lead Actor in a Comedy Series
Anthony Anderson blackish
Aziz Ansari Master of None
Noah Calvin The Real O'Neals
Chris Geere You're the Worst
Jeffrey Tambor Transparent
Josh Thomas Please Like Me

Best Lead Actor in a Mini series of Tv Movie
Bryan Cranston All the Way
Idris Elba Luther
Timothy Hutton American Crime
Andy Samberg 7 Days of Hell
Ben Whishaw  London Spy
Patrick Wilson Fargo

Best Lead Actor in a Drama Series
Kyle Chandler Bloodline
Hugh Dancy Hannibal
Freddie Highmore Bates Motel
Mads Mikklesen Hannibal
Kevin Spacey House of Cards
Dominic West The Affair

Best Lead Actress in a Mini Series or Tv Movie
Kirsten Dunst Fargo
Felicity Huffman American Crime
Audra McDonald Lady Day at Emerson's Bar and Grill
Lili Taylor American Crime
Kerry Washington Confirmation
Shanice Williams The Wiz Live

Best Lead Actress in a Drama Series
 Shiri Appleby Unreal
Viola Davis How to Get Away with Murder
Michelle Dockery Downton Abbey
Taraji P. Henson Empire
Ruth Wilson The Affair
Robin Wright House of Cards

Best Lead Actress in a Comedy Series
Rachel Bloom Crazy Ex girlfriend
Tracy Ellis Ross blackish
Ellie Kemper Unbreakable Kimmie Schmidt
Julia Louis Dreyfus Veep
Gina Rodriguez Jane The Virgin
Constance Wu Fresh Off The Boat

Best Mini Series or Tv Movie
All The Way
American Crime
Confirmation
Fargo
Lady Day at Emerson Bar and Grill
London Spy
The Wiz Live

Best Comedy Series
blackish
Crazy Ex Girlfiend
Getting On
Jane the Virgin
Please Like Me
Transparent
Unbreakable Kimmie Schmidt

Best Drama Series
The Affair
Downton Abbey
Empire
Hannibal
House of Cards
Scandal
Unreal













Sunday, August 21, 2016

2016 Oscar Nominated Best Foreign Language Films: This is the best the world has to offer?

Every year usually after the Oscars are over, I do my best to watch all 5 of the film's nominated for Best Foreign Language Film. I'm announcing here that this is the last year I will do this and here is why:

I've loved watching foreign films for a very long time.  I used to go the Seattle International Film Festival year after year and see many of the best and worst that other countries on this Earth have to offer.  So those experiences  should pair well with watching the five Oscar nominated foreign films right? Wrong. Because each country is only allowed to advance one film to represent them and then a panel of seemingly pretty out of touch panel chooses the "best" 5, sometimes they get it correct as is the case of All About My Mother and A Separation.  But mostly they get it wrong.   They often exclude many critically acclaimed nominees  for questionable and uninspiring choices. 

This year's 5 films were no exception for being generally unexceptional.  

The nominees were:

Embrace of the Serpent- Colombia

This is two different parallel stories of two white men trying to find this cure all drug in the jungles of South America. Sometimes it had something interesting to say about wealthy nations exploiting tribal people for their industries,but mostly it just plodded. The film is well shot in black and white, but who's great idea was it to make the subtitles white as well.  Fortunately the plot was not so complicated for the times I couldn't read the subtitles.   Unfortunately, overall it's just mildly interesting.  6 out of 10

Mustang- France
The best and definitely only near great film of the bunch was this one about a group of teenagers growing up in a country who will not allow them be themselves due to tradition.  The film is a sad watch, but I particularly admired the realness of all the teenage characters.  While it was a fictional film, it felt like a documentary of these young women's sometimes tragic lives.  8 out of 10

Son of Saul- Hungary
This film was the eventual Oscar  winner.  It's a harrowing story about a man's experience trying to navigate his way through the Holocaust. The one thing that really works for the film is the way the camera follows the character in order to create the feeling that you are following this man's experience. Otherwise this doesn't add a lot to the many many films that the Oscars have recognized about the Holocaust.  Certainly tragedies like this should have films made to educate filmgoers, but the Holocaust is definitely the Academy's favorite tragedy of choice. 7 out of 10

Theeb- Jordan
This film about a child's experiencing dodging a war torn country was interesting and well done,but I have to admit that it's also the one I forgot first.  I had to go back and remind myself what it was about.  While the film had some powerful moments in the moment I viewed it, its  power for me was short lived. 7 out of 10

A War- Denmark
Of the five films I was most interested in this one's story.  A celebrated military officer is charged with a war crime that he probably unintentionally committed to protect his squadron.  If seeing every minute detail played out intrigues you, then you'll like this.  I was mostly bored by the lack of action in what could have been a very interesting and provocative film.  The military scenes are the best, but they only last not even the first half of the film before it turns over to the officer's somewhat tedious
home life and trial. 
6 out of 10

So I find it hard to believe that these are the best the world has to offer.  The only film that would've been even close to being in my top 10 of the year is Mustang and even it would've fallen short.  

I'm looking forward to some good films this fall.  I'm sure that there will be great ones that the Oscars will ignore. 


Saturday, July 16, 2016

I know what I did this summer: My travel and concert adventures Part 1

This has been my first summer in many many years that I worked through the summer, but I have managed to fit some fun weekend trips, some concerts in and some beer.

Lots of beer.

So far it's been a great summer!

Here are my adventures so far with some recommendations and best moments. It's part 1 because I have some pretty cool adventures coming up.

Summer started for me over Memorial Day when I traveled up to Portland, Maine for my birthday weekend.   Portland is a cool little New England town with an unusual amount of restaurants, coffee shops, and comic book stores considering it's only a town of 60,000 people.   For me the highlights are definitely walking around Old Port and seeing all the cool little shops, the dining scene, and local breweries and beer everywhere (I know that's shocking!).  It's also a very outdoorsy town and a great place to walk your dog.

My recommendations for Portland:
1. Beer- any place that's a bar will have a number of very local beers on tap.  Don't waste your beer consumption on your standby domestic beer here.  Try out as many of the local beers as you can in your time here.
2. Duckfat- if you know anyone who has been to Portland they will suggest Duckfat, a small (too small) restaurant that is known for their fries that are cooked in duck fat.  The wait can be crazy.  I was able to get in quickly because I ventured out on my own and was able to get a single open bar seat.  But a table for 2 can have a two hour wait.  Come at a non peak time and you will not be disappointed.  I ordered everything I wanted to try and ended up bringing half of it back to the hotel.  I'd suggest any of the following: the Cuban sandwich, poutine (apparently the plain fries are excellent too but that's not my thing.  I need gravy and cheese curds), their famous vanilla milkshake (it's very vanilla), housemade donuts with a delicious caramel dipping sauce, and of course a fine selection of local beers.
3. Otto- Boston people can probably ignore this choice because now Boston has Otto.  I think the west end Portland Otto is the best though.  They sell pizza and beer essentially.  You can get pizza by the slice too.  They have a bacon mashed potato pizza that's amazing if not sacreligious to traditional New York style pizza.
4. Lobster- yeah, Maine is lobster land.  If you like it , you can find it here for pretty cheap. But do your research.  Don't get lured into touristy lobster shops.

After Portland I took a few week traveling break in which I went to two concerts.

First up was Beyonce. I acted late on this concert and got a ticket in the upper echelon of the football stadium where the Patriots play.  To be honest Beyonce was so far from me, I can't say if it was actually her.  It could have been drag queen Beyonce for all I know (it was not).

I have been a low key fan of Beyonce since Destiny's Child, but she never got many props from me before Lemonade.  Lemonade was a game changer, and so I knew I'd regret not going to this show.  It definitely was a fast moving spectacle of a show.   Even though I couldn't really see her, the very unique screens were twisting and turning throughout the show so I didn't miss a whole lot.

Best parts: this was a Lemonade showcase.   All of the best tracks, including Formation, Hold  Up, and Daddy's Lessons were on display.  Halo, the rare ballad on the set list, was a great show ender, but Freedom with its walk on water choreography was easily the best thing of the night.

Also the stadium had a lot of good beer.

Could've been better: I know Beyonce has so many hits, but another ballad or two would've been fine. Halo was basically it.  Irresistible, XO, or If I were a boy would've been welcome additions.

A week after that show I went to a much more intimate Xfinity Center to see the Dixie Chicks.  I've seen the Dixie Chicks before, and they are probably my favorite live band that  I've ever seen, and I've seen a lot of concerts.  Let me just say if you like their songs and won't go because of what they said about Bush, well too bad for you.  You're missing out on some amazing music.  (Plus I'm guessing you've probably said much worse about President Obama)


Best parts: Taking the Long Way, a remake if Nothing Compares 2 U which was written by Prince, a cover of Beyonce's Daddy Lessons and the patriotic confetti explosion of Ready to Run. And to be honest pretty much everything was great.

Could've been better: Not much.  I would have liked one of their lullabies on the set list and like everyone else I'm holding my breath we will someday get new material from them. But the chicks are amazing musicians.

A couple weeks later I was headed to Montreal with my friend. On the way we stopped at the Ben  and Jerry's factory in Vermont.  I highly recommend the quick tour, the free ice cream and a tour of the flavor graveyard (no Schweddy balls there though). On the way home we want to the White Mountains of New Hampshire, went on a train ride to the top, and stayed at a cozy B&b

So back to Montreal.  Montreal is a great city! It came to my attention from one of my friends that some people don't know a lot about Montreal, and they were not aware of it as a tourist destination.   I've been three times, and I always go because it's as close to a European experience as you can find in North America (except for maybe Quebec City. I haven't been there yet).  There is great shopping, dining and drinking . It's also a very walkable city with lots of interesting areas. You definitely don't want to miss the old town area.  We had my best AirBnb experience ever there.  I was so spoiled by that experience that I can now only stay at that Air BNB when I go to Montreal.

What I recommend: experience as much of the French places as possible, walk or bike  a lot, have poutine in Old Town, and walk the always exciting, pedestrian friendly,and gay Rue de St. Catherine.

Finally, the next weekend we went to Provincetown (otherwise known as PTown).  It's the very tip of Cape Cod, and it used to be primarily a gay resort area, but like everything else as soon as straight people found how fun the gays made it, they wanted to come too! :)

Ptown is full of quaint B&Bs, lots of beach or forestry hiking areas, restaurants, lots of shows, and lots of bars.  Do a little research on tripadvisor and find the best B&b you can find unless you know someone who has a place there.  In the summer Ptown runs cooler than Boston so if it's 90 in Boston, it can often be like 75 in PTown, which is perfect!

I recommend Mews which is the only restaurant I've been to all three times I've bern to Ptown.  They have an amazing Lobster Vindaloo there but everything is good. I also recommend getting a reservation.  I like the bars The Monkey Bar and Harbor Lounge.  I also recommend hunting down places with draught beer because there is a lot of bottled beer in Ptown.  Finally, I recommend going to a drag show unless you can't be cool. Varla Jean Merman is a PTown mainstay. She is very funny, and she pulled me out if the audience and I got a wet kiss. Haha

I have a lot of traveling coming up in the next few weeks so Part 2 to this is imminent.






Sunday, July 10, 2016

Wisdom from my Uber Driver: The American Dream

Like many of you I've been disgusted lately by some of my fellow Americans.  That has definitely been the case after a very trying news week.  So many are fed up with division and those who create it.   I've been tired of politicians who use division to make people fearful and forward their nefarious cause.

I will admit.   This week I've been tired of America.

And that is why if you've also been tired or cynical or angry or afraid,  I must share this story.

Last night I called an uber from the train stop I was at to get the rest of the way home since it was rainy and very dark.

Muhammad was my Uber driver last night.  Usually I can gauge very quickly which uber drivers want to chat and sometimes I don't particularly feel like chatting myself.  But last night I endulged in my typical polite conversation with Muhammed.

I asked how long he worked for uber and if he liked it.   His enthusiasm for his tone when he told me that he loved it was surprising.  He started giving tips on the best places to catch ubers and then went into how busy the night had been because it had been raining.  He told me some people caught ubers just to drive them a couple blocks.

The jaded part of me who was tired of people's privilege took over and said, "isn't that annoying to pick up someone who just wants to be driven a couple blocks"

Get ready,  because this is where I really started to listen.

Muhammed said, "No," without a smattering of irony, "I'm grateful for every dollar I can earn."

How humbled on my tower of fortune and privilege I felt.

I later asked him how often he drives and he told me "well,  when I was in school I did it every night along with my other job"

More humility.  I never had to be enrolled in any school and work two jobs at the same time.

"But when I graduated I got a job promotion so now I only drive uber on weekends"

I asked him what he did for his other job , and he is a manager of something that I didn't entirely understand.

He said, "Listen, I've only been in the USA for three years. And you won't believe this, but I started out working as a valet.  Now I'm a manager at the company I was a valet for." Then he laughed, "and now I manage some of my previous managers."

I laughed also, "that's awesome!"

"But I am very respectful of those people," he told me.

Of course he was.

I thanked him for telling me that story.  I told him, "That's the story of the American dream. You don't hear people telling that kind of story much anymore"

He said, "I believe that this is the land of opportunity and if you work hard you can be successful."

Do I think his glasses were a tad too rose colored? Sure.  Would I have liked to give up my jaded glasses in exchange for his for awhile? You bet.

Obviously the USA  has problems, but Muhammed's is the kind of story America was built on.   And even hundreds of years ago it was an overly positive way to look at the darkness that has always been happening around us in this country.

But the country Muhammed was talking about is the country we should strive to be.   Even if the reality is that we never can 100% quite be that country.   But we can be better.

And dividing and frightening and shooing out people is not going to make us that country.  If we continue on that path, we will continue to be the country that we were last week. Hopefully most people really don't want that.

I hope.